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Mastering the Art of Wedding Etiquette: A Guide to Avoiding Common Wedding Mistakes

Weddings are a joyous occasion, a celebration of love and unity. However, they can also be a minefield of potential faux pas and missteps. As someone who has attended countless weddings and even had the honor of planning a few, I’ve seen it all. From guests wearing white to people giving unsolicited wedding advice, the list of what not to do at a wedding is extensive. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you navigate the tricky waters of wedding etiquette.

Don’t Upstage the Couple

One of the most common wedding mistakes is trying to steal the spotlight from the couple. Remember, this day is about them, not you. Avoid wearing white or any extravagant outfit that might draw attention away from the bride and groom. Also, refrain from making any grand announcements or proposals at the wedding. It’s their special day, let them have it.

Another way guests often upstage the couple is by posting pictures on social media before the couple does. Always respect the couple’s privacy and wait for them to share their special moments first.

Lastly, don’t bring uninvited plus-ones. If your invitation didn’t specify that you could bring a guest, assume that you should come alone. Adding unexpected guests can cause stress and logistical issues for the couple and the wedding planner.

Respect the Schedule

Weddings are often meticulously planned events, with every minute accounted for. Arriving late or leaving early can disrupt the flow of the event and is considered disrespectful. Make sure to arrive on time and stay until the cake is cut, or until the couple has left the reception.

Another common mistake is not responding to the RSVP in a timely manner. This can cause a lot of stress for the couple and the wedding planner, as they need to know the final guest count to finalize arrangements with the caterer, the venue, and other vendors.

Also, don’t forget to respect the couple’s wishes regarding their wedding registry. If they’ve asked for donations to a charity instead of gifts, honor their request. If they have a registry, stick to it. Going off-registry might result in duplicate gifts or items the couple doesn’t need or want.

Avoid Unsolicited Wedding Advice

While you might have the best intentions, giving unsolicited wedding advice can come off as rude and intrusive. The couple has likely spent months planning their special day, and they don’t need additional stress or second-guessing. If they ask for your opinion, feel free to share it. Otherwise, keep your thoughts to yourself.

Similarly, refrain from making negative comments about the wedding. Even if you don’t agree with some of the couple’s choices, remember that it’s their day, not yours. Keep your opinions to yourself and focus on celebrating their love and happiness.

Finally, don’t get too drunk. While weddings are a celebration, it’s important to remember to drink responsibly. You don’t want to be the guest who causes a scene or needs to be escorted out of the reception.


Attending a wedding is a privilege, and it’s important to respect the couple’s wishes and make their day as special as possible. Avoid common wedding mistakes such as upstaging the couple, disrespecting the schedule, and giving unsolicited wedding advice. Remember, the day is about celebrating love and unity, so focus on the positive and enjoy the festivities.